Conflict Resolution

WHAT HAPPENS IF THERE IS A CONFLICT BETWEEN CHILDREN AT FLP ON THE PLAYGROUND, IN THE GYM, OR DURING OTHERWISE “FREE” TIME?

While there are no firm rules about how to resolve disputes between children or families at FLP, we have the following recommendations:

  1. Consider talking first to the kids involved.  Sometimes a well-placed comment from a caring adult works wonders.  Try things like:  “Hi.  What’s going on here?” or “This child would like to play, too.  Is it possible to  include him in the game?”
  2. Consider talking to the parents of children involved in a conflict.  Maybe you would say, “I noticed that the kids outside are having a game where it seems that some are being left out and I think some feelings might be getting hurt.”
  3. If these things don’t work for your family, or if it’s hard for your child to navigate the dynamics of free play, there are other ways to help.  Consider:
    • Enlisting some adult friends to hang out with the kids on the playground or in the gym.  Just being close by can help.
    • Getting your child(ren) engaged in another activity or with another group that works better.  There are many games, kids, and options at FLP.
    • Volunteering to start a club to cultivate connections with other children or families that share your child(ren) or family’s interests.  Clubs can be as simple as a drawing club or a building club or a story time club.  It need not be a burdensome endeavor.

Please bear in mind that while we think FLP kids are the best, they are still kids and will likely make mistakes on their way to growing up. Our sincere hope is that all of the children and families who attend FLP will feel safe, supported, and joyful during their FLP time.  We hope that everyone will look to one another with a compassionate eye and with room for occasional mistakes to be made.